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Wetness is not arousal

Your wetness isn’t seduction. It’s sovereignty. It’s your body saying: “I’m clear. I’m open. I trust my instinct.

Wetness is not arousal
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Wetness is not arousal

My wetness isn’t horniness.
It’s not desire.
It’s not a cry for stimulation.
It’s not an invitation to chase.

My wetness is readiness.
It’s a state of self-expression; for no one but me.


I don’t get wet because I’m reacting.

I get wet because I’m placed.

Because my body is no longer guarding the gate.
Because I’m not flinching, defending, or checking for safety.
Because my nervous system is in coherence with my yes.


This is not arousal. This is absence of resistance.

My body doesn’t brace when I think of holding him.
It doesn’t hesitate when I feel the need to receive him.
It doesn’t wait to be convinced or coaxed.

It softens; because I’ve already said yes.
Not to him.
To me.


I want to receive him

Because I choose to receive him.

He doesn’t need to turn me on.
He doesn’t need to perform.
He doesn’t need to earn it.

My vagina is not a test he must pass.
It’s the space I govern.

And when I say yes;
it is ready.
He can enter.
He can release.
He can land.

No goal. No climax. No transaction.
Just placement.


Wetness is not a signal to take

It’s a signal that I am not taking from myself.

I’m not forcing myself open.
I’m not overriding pain.
I’m not bracing to give what I don’t want to give.

I’m open, because I chose it.
And my body said, yes, I trust that.

That’s not arousal.
That’s sovereignty.


My wetness is the sound of one hand clapping

It’s not for performance.
It’s not for him.
It’s not for sex.

It’s for me.

It says:

“I am whole.
I am placed.
I am in command.
And if I choose to hold you,
you will land in a field that does not resist.”

That’s not horniness.
That’s unapologetic readiness.
And it holds.